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28 Years and counting

Relationships are work in progress all the time. I have been married to the same man for 28 years. People ask me how I do it. I say to them ,You can’t change the person you married. All the traits you hated before you got married they won’t go away. You have to love the whole person bad and good. Don’t try to change him, it doesn’t work. Don’t demand .Discuss. Accept the person he or she is.

If you are unhappy with that person, and you want him to be different and change who he is find another sucker. Don’t marry him or her if you can’t talk or reason with them. You need to laugh with each other not at each other. You also have to pick and choose your fights some things are not worth fighting about. You have to listen,love them unconditionally and don’t hold stuff over their head.Most importantly leave the past in the past .Because you can’t have a happy future if you dwell or live in the past.

Think about your life together, Fights over the same things over and over again is a problem. Marriage is a mediation you have give and take equally.Give him or her time to do the things he loves. Respect each other. Never degrade or swear at him.If he does it to you,you deserve better. Make sure you make love to him with no distractions.Know when to let him be, and don’t nag him.Love is a journey with many paths to choose.Choose the right one and life will be amazing.

Marriage is a path two people need to travel together. One should not always be the giver and the other the receiver. Marriage is an equal union..

Love is a journey two people lead together.

Bean Soup also know as Pasta Fagioli

Oct3

Talking today about Italian Bean soup. It was my aunt’s birthday the other day so I baked some cupcakes made her a card and brought her lunch. The Lunch was pasta Fagioli I am no even sure if this how you spell it.

This soups warms you from the inside out.

Pasta Fagiola is an Italian bean soup. It’s delicious if you make it right. It’s really awful if you make it wrong. It’s a soup that will turn into a thick bowl of pasta if you are not careful.

I have been struggling for years to find just the right combination of ingredients. Believe me I have tried so many ,they are either too complicated,time consuming or just plain blah. So one day I looked on the Barilla website . “Who knows pasta better than Barilla? ” There it was a simple recipe I could make my own. I can now say I have successfully produced a tasty bowl of Pasta Fagioli

celery,onions,diced or shredded carrots garlic,chicken broth,diced tomatoes and canolini beans,salt and pepper fresh spinach to top if off and grated italian cheese olive oil and a little butter

Weddings

Sep22

Marriage is a journey traveled together.

: Appreciate love because faith can step in at any time.

Every wedding you attend there is a featured attraction the older aunts and uncles., The Aunts that love to watch all the young people have fun,laughing dancing,tapping glasses,posing for pictures cutting the cake and throwing the bouquet. The uncles that Joke drink and socialize with all the old friends they haven’t seen in years. The aunts and uncles are enjoying the wedding in their individual way.

Then it happens, the couples hear it , a waltz or slow song interrupting the festivities. Immediately separation ends and they join hands entering the dance floor together to show their stuff. The couples are so cute approaching the floor with their life long love,dancing effortlessly like they were appearing in an old movie. It is wonderful to see love in it’s essence old and young. You begin to appreciate your own partner because love still exists and happiness goes on if you want it too.

As we age and life goes on, faith eventually steps in changing lives forever. Just this year faith has taken my aunts love of her life. It’s heart breaking to see her sadness, her broken heart but she goes on remembering and appreciating love. So today appreciate love and life remember it can change in one second. Take time for love today even if it’s for just a few minuets.

Job applications

Sep20

I am talking today because I just filled out an application to get a part time job at a craft store. Not only did I have to fill out the application but I had to be tested. This company gives you 10 minuets to complete this. You would have to be a genius to complete it in the time allowed.

What happened to the good old days when you worked for a company and you worked your way up. You learned every part of the business so you can grow with the company. Not only were you reliable hardworking, but you didn’t need to be educated by a Ivy league college,You only had to do your job ,do it well accurately and give it your 110% . Do your job well and you were appreciated for everything you did and that is how you got the promotion you wanted. Actions spoke louder than the words on your application. Why is it that companies hire through temp agencies instead of hiring themselves. Of course there is no risk you can dangle someone around for years without any benefits attached. You come in one day and the company says bye we don’t need you any more without hesitation. There is no loyalties in this world when companies are involved . Doesn’t matter how much family time you missed because you had to work. life is short these days and companies have become vicious and unfeeling all they want is to drain the life out of you and if you don’t abide your dispensable. Remember the days you got a 3 month trial period? If you were good you got the job if you weren’t See Yah!!

I have worked in business from learning everything in the warehouse from,pulling, packing , shipping,receiving,quality control,returns,and eventually Customer service specialist. I am a hard worker,reliable,friendly dependable and a quick learner. Why is so hard to find a part time job . I know I am in the same boat with many others. That is why I am just talking. Society needs to get back to the basics. We need to start taking chances on people who are down on their luck or having a hard time finding a job because they are over or under qualified. We need to start putting our faith in to people again. We need to get back the humanity in this world and find away to work as a team.

Trick on my sister with a treat for trying

Sep17

Hi Everyone,

Since this blog is just me talking I thought I would address the subject of halloween. I decided to play a little trick on my sister last year.

Costumes can be expensive But for fun last year I bought a $1.00 mask at the dollar store. I decided to put the mask on with a black sweatshirt,black gloves and black jeans. I used a pillow case for candy.

My sister lives right around the corner, so I walked to her house with my mask off of course then right before I knocked on the door I put my mask on and my hood up.

My nephew answered the door and I said “Trick or Treat.” He and his girlfriend were all excited because it was their first tricker treater of the night. My sister came to the door to check it out. They didn’t recognize me . I wanted so badly to say It’s auntie but I didn’t. I thanked them and went on my way. After all you could mistake me for a kid when my face is covered. My body is short and my hands are small.

The next day I asked my sister if she had any tricker treater? She said” I got 1 trick or treater.” I told her what I did and she laughed . This year don’t rent a costume create one. See it’s as easy as 123.

Halloween is fast approaching instead of renting one create one.

A Weird costume for only a $1.00

Roadside Memorials

Sep17

What do people think about roadside memorials? The states thinks it’s a distraction. But when people see a police car stopping someone for speeding it’s also a distraction. This also cause a problems.
I think it’s okay to have a cross on the side of the road for a loved one that has been killed.I don’t feel like they should be allowed to stop and decorate the cross because,It is dangerous for people to stop on the side of the road to pay their respect,they could be seriously hurt. The cemetery is where the family should visit to pay their respect.
I can see both sides of this debate but I think a cross is okay on the side of the road as long as it doesn’t have a bunch of memorabilia surrounding it because this is a distraction.

Romance

Sep12

Romance is in the heart of the beholder.

What does romance mean to you? Is it flowers, candle light dinners, or sexy lingerie. Yes these are all romantic and quick ways to impress.
To me romance is just like a moment.
The first romantic thing my husband did for me was? Before we were married I made dinner for him at his apartment. I made a chicken parmesan, pasta and a garden salad. Dessert was a 5 layer torte with home made whip cream. We finished dinner and it was time for me to make the whip cream, No electric mixer.So I whipped the cream manually a big task for anyone to conquer.

My husband came to pick me up for our next date and he had a surprise for me.
I opened the package It was a brand new electric mixer for me. It made me smile, It may sound weird but thats what I called romantic. He knew the whip cream wasn’t easy to make with out one so he took a little extra time to think of me and buy me a mixer. That to me is romance. I still have the mixer but it was upgraded to a kitchen aid with a mixing bowl. I can’t bring myself to throw the old electric mixer away.

Moments

Sep8

Subject today is Moments for the one you love. If I asked you to think about a moment you experienced with your husband or wife what could you tell me. What is a moment? A moment is a special thought of you. The time he or she took the time to think about you for no reason,just because.

My first moment with my husband was our first date. It was my birthday he was 2 hours late!!!! Yes, two hours.He never called or anything I thought he stood me up. When he got to my house I wanted to send him home,but he handed me a little box,I opened it ,a pair of opal earrings for me. So of course The gift made up for his tardiness.Even though I had just met him I had the feeling there was a good reason for his tardiness .He explained to me he was late because he was taking the state electrician test. Apparently this test doesn’t come around all the time.

He’s stuck on me!!!

: Make a moment for your loved one today.

What moment comes to mind when you think of your husband or wife. If you can’t think of one maybe moments need to be started. Create one today,What is his favorite coffee or candy bar ?Bring one home because you are taking time to remember that person.I think it’s romantic!!

All Grown up

Sep5

Did you ever wake up in the morning and wonder where the years have gone. I did this morning. when I signed into my work computer and there it was, a reminder,a screen saver of my 3 boys all dressed up for Halloween . My little Ninja, my cowardly cute lion and my tiny sweet baby playing with a pumpkin bigger than him. Wow! what a reality check that was for me. As a mother you spend all your time caring for your family, making sure everyone has everything they need, providing emotional support, cleaning the house, PTA meeting, parents open house ,ice cream socials ,book fairs, you get my drift.Then Bang !!! All of a sudden it’s all gone and it’s just you. Your kids are all grown up.

Reality has set in once again your children don’t need you like they use to. Now when you try to help them the words that come out of their mouth is I’m 18 years old I can take care of myself. Those little darling you invested your heart and soul in can do it themselves. It’s hard for a mom to hear but then you realize it’s a good thing to hear because it just means you raise a strong, independent, confident man.You realized you lost yourself and your dreams in

in the process of raising them.Well I say it’s time for me and you to start finding ourselves again. I believe my boys will need mom once again when they have their own children. Then the reality will begin again, it would be wonderful and those old days will be relived with and through grandchildren.

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