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28 Years and counting

Apr11

Relationships are work in progress all the time. I have been married to the same man for 28 years. People ask me how I do it. I say to them ,You can’t change the person you married. All  the  traits you hated before you got married they won’t go away. You have to love the whole person bad and good. Don’t try to change him, it doesn’t work. Don’t demand .Discuss. Accept the person he or she is.

If you  are unhappy with that person, and you want  him to be different and change who he is find another sucker.  Don’t marry him or her if you can’t talk or reason with them. You need to laugh with each other not at each other.  You also have to pick and choose your fights some things are not worth fighting about. You have to listen,love them unconditionally and don’t hold stuff over their head.Most importantly leave the past in the past .Because you can’t have a happy future if you dwell or live in the past.

Think about your life together, Fights over the same things over and over again is a problem.  Marriage is a mediation you have give  and take equally.Give him or her time to do the things he loves. Respect each other. Never degrade or swear at him.If he does it to you,you deserve better. Make sure you make love to him with no distractions.Know when to let him be, and don’t nag him.Love is a journey with many paths to choose.Choose the right one and life will be amazing.

Marriage is a path two people need to travel together. One should not always be the giver and the other the receiver. Marriage is an equal union..

Love is a journey two people lead together.

Coffee and a Muffin

Sep26

I had to use some banana that were very ripe and a couple of peaches that could only be used for baking.So I decided to make Banana Peach muffins. I thought to myself  this would be great with a cup of coffee.

When I went to the store the other day I made a decision to buy the store brand coffee Essentials everyday french roast ,figuring how bad could it be. It cost me 5.99 for a large 29 oz can. It’s a bargain. I perked the coffee, it tasted like motor oil. I noticed I forgot to put a filter in the percolator so I perked it again with the filter figuring that’s why it taste so bad.Wrong it still tasted bad.

 

Choose your coffee wisely the bargain brand is not always the best choice.

Nothing permeates  fall more than a cup of coffee and a homemade Muffin. The coffee warms your bones and the muffin melts in your mouth.

Glad I had another brand of coffee to enjoy these muffins. Folgers coffee made the difference.

Weddings

Sep22
Love Happens

Marriage is a journey traveled together.

Appreciate love because faith can step in at any time.

Every wedding you attend there is a featured attraction the older aunts and uncles., The Aunts that  love to watch all the young people have fun,laughing dancing,tapping glasses,posing for pictures cutting the cake and throwing the bouquet. The uncles that Joke drink and socialize with all the old friends they haven’t seen in years. The aunts and uncles are enjoying the wedding in their individual way.

Then it happens, the couples hear it , a waltz or slow song interrupting the festivities. Immediately separation ends and they join hands entering the dance floor together to show their stuff. The couples are so cute approaching  the floor with their life long love,dancing effortlessly like they were appearing in  an old movie. It is wonderful to see love in it’s essence old and young. You begin to appreciate your own partner because love still exists and happiness goes on if you want it too.

As we age and life goes on, faith eventually steps in changing lives forever. Just this year faith has taken my aunts love of her life. It’s heart breaking to see her sadness, her broken heart but she goes on remembering and appreciating love. So today appreciate love and life remember it can change in one second. Take time for love today even if it’s for just a few minuets.Image

Romance

Sep12
This is an old memory

Romance is in the heart of the beholder.

What does romance mean to you? Is it flowers, candle light dinners, or sexy lingerie. Yes these are all romantic and quick ways to impress.
To me romance is just like a moment.
The first romantic thing my husband did for me was? Before we were married I made dinner for him at his apartment. I made a chicken parmesan, pasta and a garden salad. Dessert was a 5 layer torte with home made whip cream. We finished dinner and it was time for me to make the whip cream, No electric mixer.So I whipped the cream manually a big task for anyone to conquer.

My husband came to pick me up for our next date and he had a surprise for me.
I opened the package It was a brand new electric mixer for me. It made me smile, It may sound weird but thats what I called romantic. He knew the whip cream wasn’t easy to make with out one so he took a little extra time to think of me and buy me a mixer. That to me is romance. I still have the mixer but it was upgraded to a kitchen aid with a mixing bowl. I can’t bring myself to throw the old electric mixer away.

All Grown up

Sep5
Did you ever wake up in the morning and wonder where the years have gone. I did this morning. when I signed into my work computer and there it was, a reminder,a screen saver of my 3 boys all dressed up for Halloween . My little Ninja, my cowardly cute lion and my tiny sweet baby  playing with a pumpkin bigger than him. Wow! what a reality check that was for me. As a mother you spend all your time caring for  your family, making sure everyone has everything they need, providing emotional support, cleaning the house, PTA meeting, parents open house ,ice cream socials ,book fairs, you get my drift.Then Bang !!! All of a sudden it’s all gone and it’s just you. Your kids are all grown up.

Reality has set in once again your children don’t need you like they use to. Now when you try to help them  the words that come out of their mouth is I’m 18 years old  I can take care of myself. Those little darling you invested your heart and soul in  can do it themselves.  It’s hard for a mom to hear but then you realize it’s a good thing to hear because it just means you raise a strong, independent, confident man.You realized  you lost yourself  and your dreams in

in the process of raising them.Well I say it’s time for me and you  to start finding ourselves again. I believe my boys will need mom once again  when they have their own children. Then the reality will begin again, it would be wonderful and those old days will be relived with  and through grandchildren.