World Around Us

Apr26

Hello Everyone,
I haven’t written forever which is strange because we are all quarantined in Our homes.I don’t know about you but I haven’t been bored one minuet at home.There is always something to do.Remember all those projects you haven’t had time to do because of work ,clean the attic get rid of clothes you haven’t worn since you were 20 , exercising, home cooked meals, remodeling, sewing projects never finished-and spending time with your husband and children. Who needs date night all you do is look at his mug 24 hours a day 7 days a week.If your relationship can survive this it can survive anything.Unfortunately there are the people who get to know their spouse or live in companion under these extreme situations and realize I don’t like this person. This is a sad awakening but it does happen.Just like couples who drift apart or drift in different directions after 25 years.Not only is it a test of your love for each other it’s a test of your faith in god and others.People are being amazing in this time of need. They are getting creative in so many ways to get a glance at a loved one. Yesterday I saw a convoy of cars in the my neighborhood for someone’s birthday. His name was Ben You knew that because it was painted and shouted through the streets.Ben must be very well loved and admired by so many.Each car in the convoy had their cars decorated for him balloons presents and cards transferred though a window.There must have been at least 10 cars in the convoy.Ben was ecstatic His hands were so full of presents and cards he was juggling to keep them from falling to the ground. I know that this convoy doesn’t thank the people who most deserve recognition. But it’s a treasured moment that show the humanity in the world . I want to personally thank all you wonderful people on the front lines keeping Us safe and helping the communities. Whether your a parent a teacher a nurse a doctor a blood donor making mask volunteering your time or money food banks, restaurants and A man named Bruno who is donating free meals to families in need. In ending please make someone’s day by doing something nice, a phone call video chat a card a donation a extra meal for your neighbor or send some flowers or a gift to someone special

Hang in there!!

28 Years and counting

Apr11

Relationships are work in progress all the time. I have been married to the same man for 28 years. People ask me how I do it. I say to them ,You can’t change the person you married. All the traits you hated before you got married they won’t go away. You have to love the whole person bad and good. Don’t try to change him, it doesn’t work. Don’t demand .Discuss. Accept the person he or she is.

If you are unhappy with that person, and you want him to be different and change who he is find another sucker. Don’t marry him or her if you can’t talk or reason with them. You need to laugh with each other not at each other. You also have to pick and choose your fights some things are not worth fighting about. You have to listen,love them unconditionally and don’t hold stuff over their head.Most importantly leave the past in the past .Because you can’t have a happy future if you dwell or live in the past.

Think about your life together, Fights over the same things over and over again is a problem. Marriage is a mediation you have give and take equally.Give him or her time to do the things he loves. Respect each other. Never degrade or swear at him.If he does it to you,you deserve better. Make sure you make love to him with no distractions.Know when to let him be, and don’t nag him.Love is a journey with many paths to choose.Choose the right one and life will be amazing.

Marriage is a path two people need to travel together. One should not always be the giver and the other the receiver. Marriage is an equal union..

Love is a journey two people lead together.

Coffee and a Muffin

Sep26

I had to use some banana that were very ripe and a couple of peaches that could only be used for baking.So I decided to make Banana Peach muffins. I thought to myself this would be great with a cup of coffee.

When I went to the store the other day I made a decision to buy the store brand coffee Essentials everyday french roast ,figuring how bad could it be. It cost me 5.99 for a large 29 oz can. It’s a bargain. I perked the coffee, it tasted like motor oil. I noticed I forgot to put a filter in the percolator so I perked it again with the filter figuring that’s why it taste so bad.Wrong it still tasted bad.

Choose your coffee wisely the bargain brand is not always the best choice.

Nothing permeates fall more than a cup of coffee and a homemade Muffin. The coffee warms your bones and the muffin melts in your mouth.

Glad I had another brand of coffee to enjoy these muffins. Folgers coffee made the difference.

Weddings

Sep22

Marriage is a journey traveled together.

: Appreciate love because faith can step in at any time.

Every wedding you attend there is a featured attraction the older aunts and uncles., The Aunts that love to watch all the young people have fun,laughing dancing,tapping glasses,posing for pictures cutting the cake and throwing the bouquet. The uncles that Joke drink and socialize with all the old friends they haven’t seen in years. The aunts and uncles are enjoying the wedding in their individual way.

Then it happens, the couples hear it , a waltz or slow song interrupting the festivities. Immediately separation ends and they join hands entering the dance floor together to show their stuff. The couples are so cute approaching the floor with their life long love,dancing effortlessly like they were appearing in an old movie. It is wonderful to see love in it’s essence old and young. You begin to appreciate your own partner because love still exists and happiness goes on if you want it too.

As we age and life goes on, faith eventually steps in changing lives forever. Just this year faith has taken my aunts love of her life. It’s heart breaking to see her sadness, her broken heart but she goes on remembering and appreciating love. So today appreciate love and life remember it can change in one second. Take time for love today even if it’s for just a few minuets.

Job applications

Sep20

I am talking today because I just filled out an application to get a part time job at a craft store. Not only did I have to fill out the application but I had to be tested. This company gives you 10 minuets to complete this. You would have to be a genius to complete it in the time allowed.

What happened to the good old days when you worked for a company and you worked your way up. You learned every part of the business so you can grow with the company. Not only were you reliable hardworking, but you didn’t need to be educated by a Ivy league college,You only had to do your job ,do it well accurately and give it your 110% . Do your job well and you were appreciated for everything you did and that is how you got the promotion you wanted. Actions spoke louder than the words on your application. Why is it that companies hire through temp agencies instead of hiring themselves. Of course there is no risk you can dangle someone around for years without any benefits attached. You come in one day and the company says bye we don’t need you any more without hesitation. There is no loyalties in this world when companies are involved . Doesn’t matter how much family time you missed because you had to work. life is short these days and companies have become vicious and unfeeling all they want is to drain the life out of you and if you don’t abide your dispensable. Remember the days you got a 3 month trial period? If you were good you got the job if you weren’t See Yah!!

I have worked in business from learning everything in the warehouse from,pulling, packing , shipping,receiving,quality control,returns,and eventually Customer service specialist. I am a hard worker,reliable,friendly dependable and a quick learner. Why is so hard to find a part time job . I know I am in the same boat with many others. That is why I am just talking. Society needs to get back to the basics. We need to start taking chances on people who are down on their luck or having a hard time finding a job because they are over or under qualified. We need to start putting our faith in to people again. We need to get back the humanity in this world and find away to work as a team.

Trick on my sister with a treat for trying

Sep17

Hi Everyone,

Since this blog is just me talking I thought I would address the subject of halloween. I decided to play a little trick on my sister last year.

Costumes can be expensive But for fun last year I bought a $1.00 mask at the dollar store. I decided to put the mask on with a black sweatshirt,black gloves and black jeans. I used a pillow case for candy.

My sister lives right around the corner, so I walked to her house with my mask off of course then right before I knocked on the door I put my mask on and my hood up.

My nephew answered the door and I said “Trick or Treat.” He and his girlfriend were all excited because it was their first tricker treater of the night. My sister came to the door to check it out. They didn’t recognize me . I wanted so badly to say It’s auntie but I didn’t. I thanked them and went on my way. After all you could mistake me for a kid when my face is covered. My body is short and my hands are small.

The next day I asked my sister if she had any tricker treater? She said” I got 1 trick or treater.” I told her what I did and she laughed . This year don’t rent a costume create one. See it’s as easy as 123.

Halloween is fast approaching instead of renting one create one.

A Weird costume for only a $1.00

Roadside Memorials

Sep17

What do people think about roadside memorials? The states thinks it’s a distraction. But when people see a police car stopping someone for speeding it’s also a distraction. This also cause a problems.
I think it’s okay to have a cross on the side of the road for a loved one that has been killed.I don’t feel like they should be allowed to stop and decorate the cross because,It is dangerous for people to stop on the side of the road to pay their respect,they could be seriously hurt. The cemetery is where the family should visit to pay their respect.
I can see both sides of this debate but I think a cross is okay on the side of the road as long as it doesn’t have a bunch of memorabilia surrounding it because this is a distraction.

Romance

Sep12

Romance is in the heart of the beholder.

What does romance mean to you? Is it flowers, candle light dinners, or sexy lingerie. Yes these are all romantic and quick ways to impress.
To me romance is just like a moment.
The first romantic thing my husband did for me was? Before we were married I made dinner for him at his apartment. I made a chicken parmesan, pasta and a garden salad. Dessert was a 5 layer torte with home made whip cream. We finished dinner and it was time for me to make the whip cream, No electric mixer.So I whipped the cream manually a big task for anyone to conquer.

My husband came to pick me up for our next date and he had a surprise for me.
I opened the package It was a brand new electric mixer for me. It made me smile, It may sound weird but thats what I called romantic. He knew the whip cream wasn’t easy to make with out one so he took a little extra time to think of me and buy me a mixer. That to me is romance. I still have the mixer but it was upgraded to a kitchen aid with a mixing bowl. I can’t bring myself to throw the old electric mixer away.

All Grown up

Sep5

Did you ever wake up in the morning and wonder where the years have gone. I did this morning. when I signed into my work computer and there it was, a reminder,a screen saver of my 3 boys all dressed up for Halloween . My little Ninja, my cowardly cute lion and my tiny sweet baby playing with a pumpkin bigger than him. Wow! what a reality check that was for me. As a mother you spend all your time caring for your family, making sure everyone has everything they need, providing emotional support, cleaning the house, PTA meeting, parents open house ,ice cream socials ,book fairs, you get my drift.Then Bang !!! All of a sudden it’s all gone and it’s just you. Your kids are all grown up.

Reality has set in once again your children don’t need you like they use to. Now when you try to help them the words that come out of their mouth is I’m 18 years old I can take care of myself. Those little darling you invested your heart and soul in can do it themselves. It’s hard for a mom to hear but then you realize it’s a good thing to hear because it just means you raise a strong, independent, confident man.You realized you lost yourself and your dreams in

in the process of raising them.Well I say it’s time for me and you to start finding ourselves again. I believe my boys will need mom once again when they have their own children. Then the reality will begin again, it would be wonderful and those old days will be relived with and through grandchildren.

Love is a place in the Heart

Sep4

How do you keep your love life exciting? After 28 years of marriage everyday life becomes routine. This is when problems start in relationships. Some people feel like they are the only couple going through the motions of life. Couples begin to think there is something better out there. They start researching old crushes they once knew or maybe flirting with others to get a response. All of a sudden a spark ignites for someone else Because the thrill comes back. Things start to get more complicated. You may notice your loved one just rolls over and goes to sleep. You may notice your husband or wife becomes a health freak and starts exercising and losing weight. You may notice the kiss you receive every morning when your partner leaves for work never happens anymore.

He or she is working late all the time, going out with the guys or girls after work once a week. Then you receive the call I will be home late I am having dinner with a friend. Deep inside you know he’s with someone he or she shouldn’t be with. All you can say is I love you please get home safely.

This situation may go two ways He or she may realize what they are going to do is a mistake or they may just be careless and let it happen. Well I say if someone is unhappy with their relationship stop being a coward,and talk to your partner before they make the biggest mistake of their lives. Trust is something that is hard to get back in a relationship.

If your husband or wife starts sleeping in a different room,instead of going to your room go to his or her room and just lay there hold them. If you use to walk together take a walk. If you use to play tennis together grab a tennis racket and a court to play tennis. have an intimate moment in the shower together or the pool. Stop being room mates and be lovers again. Put your relationship first and not on the back burner. You will be surprise how the sparks come back. If they don’t then man up and do something about it. If you can’t picture yourself retiring together then get out. If you can honestly say you fell out of love fall in love again.In the end some people do out grow each other and there is nothing you can do about that.

My in laws were divorced for 35 years a year ago the re married and are so happy together. Sometimes people need to grow apart to grow together. Thanks for visiting

Find the spark again and understand that you are not alone

Marriage is the path we choose,Love is a feeling you master

I know I rambled off but all I can say is Love is unconditional love may become dormant but will emerge again if you let it.

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