28 Years and counting

Apr11

Relationships are work in progress all the time. I have been married to the same man for 28 years. People ask me how I do it. I say to them ,You can’t change the person you married. All the traits you hated before you got married they won’t go away. You have to love the whole person bad and good. Don’t try to change him, it doesn’t work. Don’t demand .Discuss. Accept the person he or she is.

If you are unhappy with that person, and you want him to be different and change who he is find another sucker. Don’t marry him or her if you can’t talk or reason with them. You need to laugh with each other not at each other. You also have to pick and choose your fights some things are not worth fighting about. You have to listen,love them unconditionally and don’t hold stuff over their head.Most importantly leave the past in the past .Because you can’t have a happy future if you dwell or live in the past.

Think about your life together, Fights over the same things over and over again is a problem. Marriage is a mediation you have give and take equally.Give him or her time to do the things he loves. Respect each other. Never degrade or swear at him.If he does it to you,you deserve better. Make sure you make love to him with no distractions.Know when to let him be, and don’t nag him.Love is a journey with many paths to choose.Choose the right one and life will be amazing.

Marriage is a path two people need to travel together. One should not always be the giver and the other the receiver. Marriage is an equal union..

Love is a journey two people lead together.

Coffee and a Muffin

Sep26

I had to use some banana that were very ripe and a couple of peaches that could only be used for baking.So I decided to make Banana Peach muffins. I thought to myself this would be great with a cup of coffee.

When I went to the store the other day I made a decision to buy the store brand coffee Essentials everyday french roast ,figuring how bad could it be. It cost me 5.99 for a large 29 oz can. It’s a bargain. I perked the coffee, it tasted like motor oil. I noticed I forgot to put a filter in the percolator so I perked it again with the filter figuring that’s why it taste so bad.Wrong it still tasted bad.

Choose your coffee wisely the bargain brand is not always the best choice.

Nothing permeates fall more than a cup of coffee and a homemade Muffin. The coffee warms your bones and the muffin melts in your mouth.

Glad I had another brand of coffee to enjoy these muffins. Folgers coffee made the difference.

Weddings

Sep22

Marriage is a journey traveled together.

: Appreciate love because faith can step in at any time.

Every wedding you attend there is a featured attraction the older aunts and uncles., The Aunts that love to watch all the young people have fun,laughing dancing,tapping glasses,posing for pictures cutting the cake and throwing the bouquet. The uncles that Joke drink and socialize with all the old friends they haven’t seen in years. The aunts and uncles are enjoying the wedding in their individual way.

Then it happens, the couples hear it , a waltz or slow song interrupting the festivities. Immediately separation ends and they join hands entering the dance floor together to show their stuff. The couples are so cute approaching the floor with their life long love,dancing effortlessly like they were appearing in an old movie. It is wonderful to see love in it’s essence old and young. You begin to appreciate your own partner because love still exists and happiness goes on if you want it too.

As we age and life goes on, faith eventually steps in changing lives forever. Just this year faith has taken my aunts love of her life. It’s heart breaking to see her sadness, her broken heart but she goes on remembering and appreciating love. So today appreciate love and life remember it can change in one second. Take time for love today even if it’s for just a few minuets.

True Friends

Sep19

Many people have friends. but some people have a best friend that stands out. Cherish her like she cherishes you.

A friend is someone you can count on no matter what? The other day I was at the store and when I went to start my car it just wouldn’t start. I immediately called my friend. She actually couldn’t get there to help me but she told me to wait and she sent her daughter who was closer to me. She insisted her daughter would come because she couldn’t. To me that’s a good friend. She was there for me when my mom passed, she was there when I had my boys and she was there when my husband and I renewed our vows. She has been with me through it all

Friends come in all shapes and sizes some are there through thick and thin. Other fly in and out of your life at their convenience.

A friend comes into your life when you need them,It may be for a short time or it may be for life. Some friends are keepers and some friends are Fly by nighters. Some friends are made by chance and some friends are made by life’s experiences. No matter what the case. Keep the friends that give to you what you give them. Stop trying to impress the ones that are only there at their own convenience.

Cherish your friendships that are true and unconditional.

Romance

Sep12

Romance is in the heart of the beholder.

What does romance mean to you? Is it flowers, candle light dinners, or sexy lingerie. Yes these are all romantic and quick ways to impress.
To me romance is just like a moment.
The first romantic thing my husband did for me was? Before we were married I made dinner for him at his apartment. I made a chicken parmesan, pasta and a garden salad. Dessert was a 5 layer torte with home made whip cream. We finished dinner and it was time for me to make the whip cream, No electric mixer.So I whipped the cream manually a big task for anyone to conquer.

My husband came to pick me up for our next date and he had a surprise for me.
I opened the package It was a brand new electric mixer for me. It made me smile, It may sound weird but thats what I called romantic. He knew the whip cream wasn’t easy to make with out one so he took a little extra time to think of me and buy me a mixer. That to me is romance. I still have the mixer but it was upgraded to a kitchen aid with a mixing bowl. I can’t bring myself to throw the old electric mixer away.

Moments

Sep8

Subject today is Moments for the one you love. If I asked you to think about a moment you experienced with your husband or wife what could you tell me. What is a moment? A moment is a special thought of you. The time he or she took the time to think about you for no reason,just because.

My first moment with my husband was our first date. It was my birthday he was 2 hours late!!!! Yes, two hours.He never called or anything I thought he stood me up. When he got to my house I wanted to send him home,but he handed me a little box,I opened it ,a pair of opal earrings for me. So of course The gift made up for his tardiness.Even though I had just met him I had the feeling there was a good reason for his tardiness .He explained to me he was late because he was taking the state electrician test. Apparently this test doesn’t come around all the time.

He’s stuck on me!!!

: Make a moment for your loved one today.

What moment comes to mind when you think of your husband or wife. If you can’t think of one maybe moments need to be started. Create one today,What is his favorite coffee or candy bar ?Bring one home because you are taking time to remember that person.I think it’s romantic!!

Love is a place in the Heart

Sep4

How do you keep your love life exciting? After 28 years of marriage everyday life becomes routine. This is when problems start in relationships. Some people feel like they are the only couple going through the motions of life. Couples begin to think there is something better out there. They start researching old crushes they once knew or maybe flirting with others to get a response. All of a sudden a spark ignites for someone else Because the thrill comes back. Things start to get more complicated. You may notice your loved one just rolls over and goes to sleep. You may notice your husband or wife becomes a health freak and starts exercising and losing weight. You may notice the kiss you receive every morning when your partner leaves for work never happens anymore.

He or she is working late all the time, going out with the guys or girls after work once a week. Then you receive the call I will be home late I am having dinner with a friend. Deep inside you know he’s with someone he or she shouldn’t be with. All you can say is I love you please get home safely.

This situation may go two ways He or she may realize what they are going to do is a mistake or they may just be careless and let it happen. Well I say if someone is unhappy with their relationship stop being a coward,and talk to your partner before they make the biggest mistake of their lives. Trust is something that is hard to get back in a relationship.

If your husband or wife starts sleeping in a different room,instead of going to your room go to his or her room and just lay there hold them. If you use to walk together take a walk. If you use to play tennis together grab a tennis racket and a court to play tennis. have an intimate moment in the shower together or the pool. Stop being room mates and be lovers again. Put your relationship first and not on the back burner. You will be surprise how the sparks come back. If they don’t then man up and do something about it. If you can’t picture yourself retiring together then get out. If you can honestly say you fell out of love fall in love again.In the end some people do out grow each other and there is nothing you can do about that.

My in laws were divorced for 35 years a year ago the re married and are so happy together. Sometimes people need to grow apart to grow together. Thanks for visiting

Find the spark again and understand that you are not alone

Marriage is the path we choose,Love is a feeling you master

I know I rambled off but all I can say is Love is unconditional love may become dormant but will emerge again if you let it.

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